I'm definitely ready for another boyfriend, but I don't want to "search" for him, because that's not really how it's supposed to go. I just feel like this extreme loneliness that I'm feeling right now will push me to it.
I had hoped I wouldn't get like this.
When you're feeling lonely like this, the answer is NOT to think about being with someone else or spend time WANTING someone else or LONGING for someone else. Because you have to be defined by you. You have to be defined by the choices you make and the life you need and boys or whomever have to come way after all of that.
ReplyDeleteI know it's hard. Promise, I know. I've been single almost forever. I haven't had any sort of relationship for at least 7 years. So, I promise I know it's hard.
I know what it feels like to look on the love others have and feel crushingly alone. I know that it can be an actual physical representation of loneliness.
But it saddens me so much to see young girls so DESPERATE to be with someone. It's such the wrong way to prioritize. There is so much more to do in life, to be full and fulfilled, and it doesn't involve having to have an other.
And trust me, beautiful girl, finding an other is not something that will come hard to you. I'm positive.
So when it's like this, my advice is Harriet the Spy and chocolate milk. (I JUST gave this advice to a friend yesterday who was engaged (WAS) and isn't). I promise you, Harriet the Spy is this really amazing, inspirational movie and it will make you feel like you can do ANYTHING.
At least, that's what it does for me.
Also, you can call me, always. Any time. My number is out on teh interwebs.
I hope you feel better. Loneliness does pass. Even the most painful bouts do go away. And then, you find something awesome and some direction and can think about building YOUR life and letting those OTHERS fall in place as you make things happen.
K, ending unsolicited advice right NOW.